This Just In…
The words “should,” “try,” and “can’t” need to be eliminated from your vocabulary effective immediately!
These three words are red-flag words that cause you to begin questioning way too much that does not need to be questioned. These three words take you straight into your head and, if you were not already aware of it, the inside of your head is a dangerous place for a good idea to be!
Here is your new process for when you hear any of those three words:
First, ask yourself if the word is valid or not (aka get clarity). In other words, are you saying “try” when you really mean “no?” Is someone telling you that you “can’t” do something because it truly cannot be done, or are they saying it because if you succeed at doing it, they will look even lazier than they already appear? “Should” you do something because it is the way “we have always done it?”
When you hear these words, rest assured they are usually worthless and non-committal.
Second, ask yourself WHO is saying the word to you? Ask yourself if this is someone who has any handle on reality or whose opinion you truly respect.
An example of this would be if you were at a party and your brother-in-law was telling everyone that he has a tip on a stock and that if you invest a certain amount of money between certain days and certain times and planets were in some kind of alignment and whatever else…and this was the 14th financial tip someone in your family has given you over the past few years (none of which has panned out, by the way), consider the WHO. Then ask yourself why are you listening to broke people tell you how to make money?
The take-away here? Simple. Actions speak louder than words. There are a lot of people who talk as if they know everything.
Most of us know very little. That is important. Because we know there is room to learn.
Find someone who is a true mentor because they have DONE something, not just someone who thinks you probably “can’t,” but “should” “try” to do something.