Face It, You May Just Not Want to Do It (and that's OK!)
by Robin Sacks
by Robin Sacks
Have you ever noticed that there are things nobody has to tell you to do, you just go do them?
Why are some things like that, and others are not?
The obvious answer is that, when you actually want to do something, nobody needs to tell you to do it. Motivation is easy when it's something you want to do.
But life is filled with things we don't necessarily want to do, but have to take care of anyway, regardless of how we feel about them.
Making ourselves do something is not so straight forward when we don't want do it.
Here are three reasons why we typically don't want to do things, and what to do about that.
One is that we know we'd like to do something, but we don't know much about it and, therefore, can't make any decisions as to how to go about doing it. That keeps us stuck where we are.
When that happens, the remedy is to start educating yourself, start learning, start researching or talk to other people who do that thing already. Start observing and taking notes. Put simply - just start.
The second reason we don't do something is, we might have total clarity on what it is we want to do, but we're not taking action because we're not sure what the next step is.
When this happens, you've got the drive and desire already there, and that's a great start! What you need in that situation is to find a process, and work the process. Simply put - find some guidance.
The third reason we don't do things is that we, in all honesty, don't want to do them!
It's often something we like the thought of, but don't really want to put the effort or work in to actually having it.
In that situation, what people really want is the end result. Here's a news flash for you, you can't get an end result unless you put in the effort, work, and time.
What you need to do in that situation is, either make a decision to approach it like one of the situations above, or just drop it and move on.
When you find yourself unmotivated to do something, do one of these three things:
- Just start
- Get some guidance
- Drop it