These are real things I have heard come out of people’s mouths over the past few days:
- “I have a million things to do today!”
- “I called her like 17 times.”
- “I don’t have any time to do this.”
- “I can’t do anything until I hear back from him.”
OK. Let’s start with the fact that every one of these statements is totally untrue, completely ridiculous, and nothing but lazy and stress inducing!
There…I’ve said it.
‘Inflated language’ is what I call it when you SO exaggerate the situation that it creates a negative stress cycle in your brain that, in turn, creates the physical feelings that breed nervousness, worry, and anxiety.
Did I mention that YOU create this?
The reality is, you do NOT have “a million” things to do today; you have five things to do today.
The reality is, you did NOT call her 17 times; you called her three times and have still not heard back.
The reality is, you DO have time to do anything that you deem worthwhile…IF you don’t do something that is a complete waste of time (that you still want to do) instead.
The reality is, there is always something you CAN be doing while you are waiting for something else; switch gears and get something done.
Effective communication is the key to mastering real-life situations in the moment…any moment. That includes effective communication with YOURSELF.
Begin to listen when you talk. Are you using ‘inflated language?’ If so, I guarantee you are creating unnecessary stress for yourself. Simply by telling yourself the truth, you will feel less stressed and more in control of your life.