Before You Say “Yes” to Anything, You Have to Say “No” to Something
You may have heard before (or even just assumed on your own) that “successful” people say YES to a lot of things.
That would seem to make sense, you might think. After all, the more you say “yes” to things, the more opportunities there are for one of those “yeses” to come through for you.
However, successful people know that is completely ridiculous logic! As a matter of fact, the most successful people you know have say “no” to more things than you ever will.
Here are five things you need to know right now about the power of saying “no”:
1. If you find yourself saying things like, “I have no time” or “I have no energy” or “I feel like I am always doing things for others and have nothing left to give myself,” you are probably saying “yes” WAY TOO OFTEN!
“If you want more time, freedom, and energy, start saying no.” (Anonymous)
2. When you say “yes” to too many things, you will never do any of them to the best of your ability. Spreading yourself too thin will never make you happy or successful or calm or content or relaxed or able to sustain that pace.
“It’s only by saying NO that you can concentrate on the things that are really important.” (Steve Jobs)
3. YOU are the decision maker here…do not forget that! If you are unhappy or unmotivated or lacking energy, guess what? YOU can do something about that!
“Give yourself the permission to say no to anything that makes you unhappy or drains your energy.” (Anonymous)
4. Take your time. Yes and no are two of the shortest words in your vocabulary, and yet they can be two of the most impactful ones. Learn to respond instead of react when faced with a yes or no decision. The difference? One breath. Take a moment before you open your mouth to truly make a decision — even with small things. Get in the habit of taking a deep breath before ever talking.
What you will find is that it becomes easier to make a decision (yes or no) when you give both your mind and your mouth a moment to respond. The result is that what comes out of your mouth is in alignment with what you actually want to do.
“Replacing the words ‘I should’ with ‘I choose to’ changes everything.” (Robin Sacks)
5. If you said “yes” to something that you realize later on you really wanted to say “no” to, do something about it…don’t hang on to it.
“Half of the troubles of this life can be traced to saying yes too quickly and not saying no soon enough.” (Josh Billings)
Here’s a secret that all happy people, all successful people, and (now) you know…it’s okay to say no.
Saying No is defined as disagreeing or not to accept something. Most people feel constrained to consent to every request, and would preferably juggle a million occupations than decline to help, regardless of whether they are left with no time for themselves. Therefore, learning how to say no can earn you some respect from yourself and people around you. Strangely, the capacity to say no is firmly connected to fearlessness. Individuals with low self-assurance and confidence regularly feel anxious about irritating others and tend to rate others’ needs more exceptionally than their own.