The GAP That's Preventing You From Accomplishing

by Robin Sacks

· Self-Awareness,Choices,Life Lessons,Pay Attention,Make Things Happen
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Let me ask you a question.

If I took you to Lowe's and I bought you a toolbox full of tools and a bunch of material for building, and then I handed you a blueprint to build a house and dropped you off at a work site...could you build that house?

After all, you have everything you need to build that house, all you have to do is follow the plan.

If you're being honest and rational, you would agree that most people would not be able to do it.

It's not because they don't have the plan, it's not because they don't have the right materials, and it's not because they don't have the right tools. They have all of those things. But when people give you the tips. the tools. the materials and the plan, there's often something missing that prevents you from getting the result you want.

Understanding how to fit things into YOUR life, not someone else's life, is the key. It's not just a matter of getting everything you need and just following the plan; sometimes it's a matter of learning how to apply all of it into your real life.

Think about it, you've done this; all of us have done this. You've had plans, you've had tools, you've had everything you needed to do what you intended to do, whether you bought a program, tried to lose weight and keep it off, bought a course that you never completed, or wanted to start a business that never got off the ground. We've all had thoughts and ideas, heck, we've even had business plans and exercise plans that told us exactly what to do.

But what didn't we get with any of those things? What was in the gap?

The gap is how to make those things work in your real life.

Typically, people do one of two things in this situation.

For one type of person, there's a motivation for a few days to jump right in and do it, and then that motivation goes away by about day six. What happens then is most of them quit.

The moment they stop, it's over.

Worse, they blame themselves because, after all, they had a "plan" and everything they needed to succeed. They get down on themselves because they believe they should have been able to do it. What happens with doing it this way is that you probably end up going back to that same thing several times, each time having to start at the beginning.

At the other end of the spectrum is the second type of person. They take the "boot camp" approach. They start gung ho and they are relentless. They push through no matter what is going on, doing the thing they signed up for without fail. They push and they push and they push, and what often happens to these people is they either they get burned out quickly and stop or they bully themselves so much that they don't want to do it anymore...and they stop.

Neither of those approaches will ever get you the result you want.

The answer lies in the middle. That's the missing piece...that's the gap.

The way to make things happen is to adjust the plan so that works for your day to day life. Only then will it be easier to do consistently.

“If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.” (Jim Rohn)

You'll never build the house if you quit. So give yourself permission to:

  1. Start DOING immediately (don't wait, just begin)
  2. Pay attention and start learning from the first moment
  3. Gather what you need
  4. ADJUST so that it is do-able
  5. Learn from what you are DOING
  6. Adjust some more so that it works for you
  7. Keep going!

Having a plan, having the right tools, having the right materials, and most importantly being able to navigate how those things fit in to your real everyday life is how you get the results you are seeking.

Fill the gap and you will change your life.

Image by aitoff from Pixabay.

WRITTEN by Robin Sacks

Professionally, I am a Confidence Coach, speaker, author and motivator.

Personally, I am a mom, wife, and friend.

I live for bad puns and cozy mysteries.

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