The One Thing That Will Build Your Self-Confidence

You cannot think your way into being confident - although learning how to talk to yourself in a supportive and positive way is key to self-confidence.

You cannot talk your way into being confident - if you're 'all talk,' people will quickly find out that your words are not who you are, but rather who you want to be.

The one thing that builds self-confidence is action. The more action you take, the more evidence you have that you can do things. The more evidence you have to show that you can do things, the harder it is to say that you can't.

Experience builds confidence.

Here are three ways to have more experiences starting right now:

1. Take Nike's advice and Just Do It! Replace thinking and talking with doing.

2. Confront and flip your self-talk. Every time you think to yourself, "I can't do that," immediately say to yourself, "I will do that." Getting in the habit of supporting yourself will move you to do more.

3. Keep track of your experiences. Once you document the evidence, it's easier to reference it. The next time you are in the same situation and get stuck, you can quickly remind yourself that, "The last time this happened, here's what I did to get through it."

Experience builds confidence.

The more you do, the more confident you become. The more confident you become, the more you will do. This positive and powerful cycle is created by taking a first step.

Martin Luther King Jr. talked about the concept of taking one step, even if you can’t see the whole stairway when you start. Nobody gets to the top landing any other way...they all have to take the same steps. Begin your ascent today.

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WRITTEN by Robin Sacks

Professionally, I'm a Confidence Coach, Motivational Speaker, and Author.

Personally, I'm a mom, wife, and friend.

I live for bad puns and cozy mysteries.

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